Tag: mind

Check in

Sohan Nicole

Why do we hide so much? From ourselves, from friends, from family, fom people who want to help us…

We desire to be free and yet we imprison ourselves. Hiding our feelings, our questions, our concerns; all of this hiding just leads us into feeling more trapped.

Have you ever said something and all of the sudden you could start to breathe again? That is the feeling of being free! We owe it to ourselves.

The first person we should open up to is our own self and often it is the most difficult yet important step. Coming to terms with yourself, understanding what you want, questioning yourself…

⁃ Am I doing this for me?

⁃ What could I do better?

⁃ What do I want to do?

⁃ How do I feel about this?

⁃ What I can do to make myself feel better/more satisfied?

⁃ How am I treating myself?

It is important for us to learn that asking ourselves questions like these and having this inner dialogue is extremely important for our self improvement. We cannot improve for others, we must do it for ourselves. And who can know you better than YOU?

Often times we go by in such an automatic state we never check in with our feelings, necessities, challenges, emotional state etc…

I encourage you to begin exploring and hearing yourself out! Right here, right now. If you don’t do it, who will?

Love is being human

Sohan Nicole

A common perception of love is a relationship with a significant other, a family member, a friend, a pet. There is love for what we do, our passions, our jobs. But the dominant ideal of love is that which consists on affection and interactions. But, what do we mean by interactions? Is love exclusively expressed with words, hugs and kisses?

Love is being human. Our foundation is love based. As cliché and peachy as it sounds, it is true. Do you think we were brought to this fisical realm by anything other than love? Love is something that emanates naturally from us. We see this in children, and animals. No matter how many times you scold a child, they will always return to you with love. We experiment this with our mothers, they always have the capacity to spread love even when they are dissapointed or mad at us.

Love is not something we can not feel. On the contrary, we have created a resistance towards expressing love. Nowadays, the more love you express the more hippie or crazy you are. But why?

Why is it we view love as something so distant and rare. Why is it we prefer to act with negative behaviors? Why is it we mention how much love we lack? When in reality the love starts within ourselves.

We talk all the time about how much this world needs a change but we continue to manifest ourselves lacking love and understanding. We don’t love nor understand ourselves. How can we expect the best out of the world around us if we share the worst of ourselves? We can only expect to be compensated with what we give. If we give hate, we shall receive it.

Understanding these ideas can be a little challenging if we think about how the world works right now and how we are programmed to react. We are rarely scolded with love, we rarely express ourselves with love. On the contrary, we tend to defend our ideals, and ourselves from a defensive posture.

We rarely teach and are taught through love. We are quick to be impatient with the people around us.

Patience, empathy, compassion, understanding, communicating, respect; all of these characteristics can only be accquired through love. We cannot understand the person next to us if we do not practice love, we cannot lend a helping hand if we do not know love.

And love is not what Hollywood has presented to us. Love is not dates, presents and flowers. Love is supporting, love is helping, love is being human. And being human is not about how many kisses you give on a daily basis, being human is about how many good desires you gave out daily, how many lives you touched by simply similing.

We have lost our human touch, we have become frivolous and selfish creatures. We have grown in competition with life, and the world around us. Somehow, we have lost the notion that there is no good resulting from hate.

Let us start viewing life through a loving lens. Let us live in gratitude. Give thanks because you are breathing, reading, eating, because you have people around you that can help you if you are in need. You are not alone in this world. Let’s give thanks because in spite of all the crazy things happening we still have an opportunity to make a change, as small as it may be.

We cross paths with millions of people daily, we connect with them through our phones, on the streets, they are all around us. Smile at them for a change, confuse them with your warmness, be the change. Be the person who enters a room and lights it up. Be the person you wish entered your life and changed it for the better. We have so much power to inspire one another, a simple “good morning”, “have a nice day”, “have a nice meal”. A simple good desire can change a person’s life. Wouldn’t you like to be a part of the world’s growth?

Establishing the Connection

Sohan Nicole

Previously I have introduced some posts about the connection between mind, body and soul. In this post I would like to further this knowledge.

For years the dialogue about the connection between gut and mind has been established. Not only through medicine (Ayuverdic, and Chinese medicine for example) but also through our own knowledge. We constantly see this connection very clearly, whenever we get “butterflies” in our stomach or we are anxious, or we make a certain decision because in our gut it feels right. And we even see the physical repercussions of stress: hair loss, acne, insomnia and so on.

The “small” symptoms our body shows when we are feeling a certain way is certainly palpable. But, what happens when we put our spirits aside as well? I could be very dramatic and mention cancer, but really that is just another symptom. The root of our health problems are often (just to not say always) based on our unbalanced selves. Not just because we don’t eat right, sleep right, or take time to relax. But also because we don’t think right nor do we pay attention to ourselves correctly.

Based on my previous posts, by now you should understand that we are 100%, not only what we eat, but what we think. And our spirits play a huge role in what we think, hence what we are.

It has been said a numerous amount of times. One percent of us belongs to the physical realm and ninety nine percent of us to the spiritual realm. We are 1% PHYSICAL, and 99% SPIRITUAL. Yes, it’s true. As “Deepak Chopra” as it sounds, we are spiritual beings in an earthly plane.

As we continue through life ignoring what our spirit needs of us we make our mind and health problems a lot more intricate. Why? Because we are not in tune with ourselves. Therefore we know not what we want, we just go by automatically making rash decisions.

If we can grasp the notion that our minds and bodies are connected, then understanding that our spirit plays a role in this shouldn’t be so difficult.

Have you ever ignored something you really wanted to do? And this something surpassed your gut and mind feeling? There was something bigger inside of you screaming that you needed to do that.

Did you?

If you did, you understand that something inside of you was your spirit saying “GO GO GO, YES THAT IS WHAT YOU ARE HERE FOR GO AHEAD!”.

If you didn’t do it, your probably looking back at that moment and feeling regretful. But, let’s reflect a bit on why you didn’t do it. Surely, you found a thousand reasons not to and they seemed right at the moment. But, did any of these reasons affect you? Or did you just find more excuses than reasons.

Allow yourself to go into a little moment with you:

Close your eyes (or don’t however you feel)

Take a deep breath, inhale and exhale.

Put your hands gently on your stomach, and ask “how am I feeling right now?” Then ask yourself, “how do I want to feel?”… hear intently.

Take another deep, deep breath.

Now, put your hands on your chest or heart. Ask, “what would make me feel how I want to feel?” “What can I do to feel satisfied with myself?” Hear intently and with curiosity. Pay attention to the answer.

Another deep, deep, deep breath.

Place your hands gently on your head. Ask, “how will I achieve this?” “What is my next move?” Visualize your plan.

You might be asking yourself what is the point of all of this. Well, you have just established a very important connection. A connection with you. Taking in consideration your mind, body and soul. Remember your soul is where your core self lies. It is where the real answers are. Our mind simply tells us how to construct the plan our being wants to execute and our body simply expresses how we are really feeling.

I encourage you to try this simple exercise more often and see where it takes you. Hear yourself more closely, be more curios about what you really want. Is what you want what others want for you? Or what your spirit (you) is longing for?