Tag: mindset

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Sohan Nicole

Why do we hide so much? From ourselves, from friends, from family, fom people who want to help us…

We desire to be free and yet we imprison ourselves. Hiding our feelings, our questions, our concerns; all of this hiding just leads us into feeling more trapped.

Have you ever said something and all of the sudden you could start to breathe again? That is the feeling of being free! We owe it to ourselves.

The first person we should open up to is our own self and often it is the most difficult yet important step. Coming to terms with yourself, understanding what you want, questioning yourself…

⁃ Am I doing this for me?

⁃ What could I do better?

⁃ What do I want to do?

⁃ How do I feel about this?

⁃ What I can do to make myself feel better/more satisfied?

⁃ How am I treating myself?

It is important for us to learn that asking ourselves questions like these and having this inner dialogue is extremely important for our self improvement. We cannot improve for others, we must do it for ourselves. And who can know you better than YOU?

Often times we go by in such an automatic state we never check in with our feelings, necessities, challenges, emotional state etc…

I encourage you to begin exploring and hearing yourself out! Right here, right now. If you don’t do it, who will?

What Are You Connected To?

Sohan Nicole

Connecting to disconnect;

Disconnecting in order to connect…

Which of these are you doing with your life? Are you creating attachments, connecting to material things and disconnecting from yourself?

Are you connected to the world around you or to the stuff that surrounds you?

Sometimes it is hard to grasp why we rely so deeply on material possesions and superficial lives (social media). What is this need to be someone we are not? Are we afraid of something? Or are we just living in an automatic state?

When was the last time you asked yourself any of these questions? Are we aware of how disconnected we have become?

In this day to day modern lifestyle it is very easy to feel connected to the media and our social characters. At the same time it is also very easy to feel a huge void inside of us. Why? Because we are not living our lives through ourselves. We are living through social media, scrolling, dowloading apps, reading headlines, hearing scandals. We are conscious of almost everything that is going on in the world.

What is going on with you?

We have adapted to media and made it part of our routine. The same way we brush our teeth every morning, we scroll for a few minutes before getting out of bed. In the moment a conversation becomes silent, we look into out cellphones for company; even though there is someone right next to us.

Not only that, but we have taken the habit of disconnecting from our realities by numbing our brain with so much media junk. We spend so much time on Netflix, scrolling down Instagram and Facebook, watching silly videos, retweeting silly posts, etc… Is this really our hobbie or is it just that we don’t want to live our reality? Or maybe it is just a matter of a habit, something we do because everyone else does so.

Truth be told our reality will never change if we don’t face it. You want to have a life you like one you saw while scrolling down Instagram. Get out there! Go create your own!

This very connection is part of what keeps us disconnected. From what? FROM YOU. The more time you invest looking into others’ lives, the more time you take away from yourself.

Connecting is not only about letting the media go and becoming aware of yourself. It is also about becoming aware of your present time. The humans passing you by, the birds flying above you, the flowers ahead of you, the sun shinning on you, the rain refreshing you. Enjoy every single one of them, smile at them, smell them, thank them, greet them, connect with them.

The first step to reconnecting is awareness. Let’s become aware of how connected we truly are. The next step is simply enjoying your life. And no, your phone is not your life. Your life is happening, right now as you scroll down this post. Go live it!

Ikigai: The Formula Towards Happiness and Meaning

Sohan Nicole

We all have trouble finding what we want to dedicate our lives to. The source of this dilema could be many things. Cultural and social beliefs, ideals of success, not recognizing our talents, vocations, and resources.

How would you feel if you could get paid for using your talents and doing what you love?

We are not raised with the notion that we can make a living out of our passions. Most of the time they are viewed as “hobbies”. We end up dedicating more time into our profession (which may have nothing to do with our passions or talents) and spend what little free time we can on our passions.

Could this have something to do with the social beliefs that surround us? I’m thinking yes! If we would have been told to explore our talents and come up with creative and innovative ways of making a living out of them, versus being told which professions give us more money and settling for that, maybe we would be more satisfied with our lives in the end.

The good news is: IT IS NEVER TOO LATE.

Wether you are in the midst of deciding what to do with your life, or you already decided on something years ago and now you want to please yourself I have a pretty simple solution for you!

The Ikigai Model. The Japanese formula for Happiness and Meaning in your life. The japanese believe in life purpose as something a lot more deep than money or big titles. Ikigai means “the reason for which you wake up in the morning”. Now, how can we keep ourselves from waking up to live for others? This model can surely help you.

It centers in:

• Your talents

• Your passions

• Your profession

• Your vocation

• Your mission

So, in this balance we find the ability to use our talents, work with what is passionate to us, and offering it to the world. Your mission combined with your vocation us what the world needs from you. Your profession combined with your vocation is what you will get paid for. Your passion combined with your profession js getting payed for something you are good at. And your passion combined with your mission is what you love.

So, there it is! The ability to put your talents out there, get paid for them, work with passion and offer the world your piece of change and innovation.

Who would have loved it if this would have been a test in high-school? I know I would have!