Tag: Feeling

Check in

Sohan Nicole

Why do we hide so much? From ourselves, from friends, from family, fom people who want to help us…

We desire to be free and yet we imprison ourselves. Hiding our feelings, our questions, our concerns; all of this hiding just leads us into feeling more trapped.

Have you ever said something and all of the sudden you could start to breathe again? That is the feeling of being free! We owe it to ourselves.

The first person we should open up to is our own self and often it is the most difficult yet important step. Coming to terms with yourself, understanding what you want, questioning yourself…

⁃ Am I doing this for me?

⁃ What could I do better?

⁃ What do I want to do?

⁃ How do I feel about this?

⁃ What I can do to make myself feel better/more satisfied?

⁃ How am I treating myself?

It is important for us to learn that asking ourselves questions like these and having this inner dialogue is extremely important for our self improvement. We cannot improve for others, we must do it for ourselves. And who can know you better than YOU?

Often times we go by in such an automatic state we never check in with our feelings, necessities, challenges, emotional state etc…

I encourage you to begin exploring and hearing yourself out! Right here, right now. If you don’t do it, who will?

The Power of Emotions

Sohan Nicole

All of us are capable of feeling. We experiment a vast number of emotions each day. Even though feeling is completely normal, we are never taught how to deal with our emotions. Instead we are taught to only feel certain emotions. One can only smile at life, no room for other emotions because they’re a “waste of time”. But, the real waste of time is pretending.

Nobody ever explains how to channel these “negative” emotions or why we are feeling them. Instead they lead us to believe we are not allowed to feel anything but happiness. By the time we grow and start feeling the same emotions we felt growing up, only heavier, we become puzzled.

“Why am I feeling this way? I’m not supposed to feel like this”. Well, yes you are. You can’t help what you feel, you can’t change it or make it go away just like that. Of course you are going to feel out of place on the first day of a new job. Yes, getting fired feels horrible, and makes you feel lost. OF COURSE GROWING UP MAKE US WANNA CRY SOMETIMES! We should never be hard on ourselves for feeling. It’s the most human thing we do.

It is our job to relearn this whole concept. Start naming our emotions, asking ourselves what is making us feel this way and how we can change it. Always telling ourselves feeling is ok, being sad is ok, being mad is ok. Feeling is not a waste of time, it actually makes us grow and get to know ourselves better.

As we gain knowledge of our own emotions we can start learning how to channel and control our reactions. When we don’t recognize what we are feeling we act by impulsiveness. We don’t understand ourselves and so we don’t know how to act. How can we start understanding our emotions?

Ask yourself:

• Why am I feeling like this?

• How do I want to feel?

• How important are my emotions to me?

• How stable is my emotional relationship with myself?

• How often do I validate myself?

• How often do I avoid myself and my feelings?

• What can I do to feel better?

It is also important to understand the difference between feelings and emotions. You may say you feel sad but, sad how?

A feeling is a more general and vague way of expressing emotions. Your emotions have first and last names.

• “I feel depressed

I feel serene

I feel lost.”

• “I want to feel stable

I want to feel at peace

I want to feel centered.”

I hope you all start a great conversation with yourselves, exploring your feelings and understanding this excercise doesn’t make you weak. It makes you even more powerful than before. Truth be told our capacity to give our emotions priority in our lives gives us more power to put our lives in order. We tend to put other people’s emotions before our own, and what kind of power has that given us in our lives?

It’s Ok To Be Human

Sohan Nicole

You fail, you anticipate, you stress, you get tired, frustrated, mad, sad, millions of emotions. Did you know that is OK? You are human! You have every right to feel what you feel. Give yourself a break. Validate your feelings, yourself.

If one day you wake up and feel like doing nothing because you do so much for your current job, your friends and your family and you feel drained, tired then ITS OK! Validate what your body, mind and spirit are telling you. Do something for yourself!

Don’t feel worthless just because you keep failing at something, breathe and try again. Or don’t try again and relax instead. We constantly saturate ourselves and when we don’t produce we are hard on ourselves. But, what are we going to produce if we never take time to feel?

Recognizing your achievements is equally important. You managed to eat at home for a whole week? Feels great huh? VALIDATE THAT FEELING!

Working towards reaching our goals is exhausting as it is, why do we make it even harder on ourselves? We didn’t come to this world to be perfect little robots who do do do do and feel nothing. We came to be human. To bloom, to grow, to create! And let me remind you: nothing in nature blooms all year long. Naturally, every single thing on this planet needs its time. And so do you.

Wether it’s an achievement or a minor set back, just remember to tell yourself it’s normal, it’s ok. You will continue to move forward.