We are the Creators!

Sohan Nicole

La vida esta llena de adversidades, está en nosotros sonreir y sacar una buena lección de cada situación y seguir adelante o dejarnos sabotear ante las adversidades. Nuestra vida y nuestro crecimiento personal está en nuestras manos; somos los creadores y los pioneros de nuestra realidad. Pongámonos la meta de llevar a cabo un cambio sano de adentro hacia afuera. Cambiemos nuestras perspectivas sobre nosotros mismos y el mundo que nos rodea, y observemos como nuestra vida da un giro para lo mejor.

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Life is full of adversities, it is up to us to either find a positive lesson or sabotage ourselves because of these adversities. Our life and personal growth is in our hands; we are the creators and pioneers of our reality. Let’s make it our goal to make a positive change from within towards the outside. Everything starts with ourselves. Let us change our perspectives of ourselves and the world around us and observe how our life changes for good!

Life Coaching: What it is and What it’s not.

Sohan Nicole

Hello all, in this post I would like to write about my profession. You may or may not know that I am a Life & Wellness Coach. What does this mean? What is Coaching? Presently there is a bit of a misconception regarding Life Coaching and what it actually is. Firstly, there is an International Coaching Federation (ICF) which certifies coaches and coaching institutes. Also, there are Universities that offer coaching programs and certifications.

The term “coaching” comes from the word carriage. In a carriage you have a driver and a person beside. The person beside in this case would be the Coach, the person driving is the Coachee or client. As if in a carriage together, these two will engange on a journey where the person who will make the desicions of where to go is the Coachee. In other words, in our coaching journey you are the one who will decide what will happen, how and when. The coach is just simple there for support and co-piloting, to keep you on track, make sure you don’t fall asleep while steering the carriage, make you question yourself wether you are taking the best route for you or not. All of this will happen through focused conversations, trascendental questions and coaching skills that will help bring positive results.

What won’t a coach do? A coach will not give you orders, will not make you work based on their agenda. You will not have to mold your life around what the coach wants for you. Instead the coach will mold theirselves to your goals and agendas. It is true that at some point the coach can intervene if they find you are way out of your track or missing some signals. But this will be done in a subtle, reflexive way.

A coach will not give you advice if you haven’t asked for it. We are not counslers, nor psychologists, or personal trainers. Neither will we make you an agenda to work on. All the work you complete or not, will be totally coming from yourself to you. Why? Because nobody knows you better than you.

You are the one who knows what will work best for yourself, what you can really commit to. Even though your coach will sometimes challenge you, it will always be with your consent. Why is this? Simple, whenever we humans are sentenced to do something we automatically create some type of resistence. How many times did you think “hmmm I should clean my room today in the afternoon” and automatically resisted doing so when your mother came storming in and asked you to do it?

That is why, in coaching everything will come from you. Us coaches are simply here to make sure you are really paying attention to yourself and keeping your eyes on the road.

Why is coaching so important? Well, we live in a time where everything is structured and people follow certain guidelines. It is rare to find someone coloring outside of the lines, sometimes because they think it can’t or shouldn’t be done. Coaching is here to open your mind, to remind you that all you need is within you, your only limit is yourself. And us coaches are here to help you find the way towards your personal development through your talents, passions and life purposes. We are here so you can live your fullest and happiest life.

What Are You Connected To?

Sohan Nicole

Connecting to disconnect;

Disconnecting in order to connect…

Which of these are you doing with your life? Are you creating attachments, connecting to material things and disconnecting from yourself?

Are you connected to the world around you or to the stuff that surrounds you?

Sometimes it is hard to grasp why we rely so deeply on material possesions and superficial lives (social media). What is this need to be someone we are not? Are we afraid of something? Or are we just living in an automatic state?

When was the last time you asked yourself any of these questions? Are we aware of how disconnected we have become?

In this day to day modern lifestyle it is very easy to feel connected to the media and our social characters. At the same time it is also very easy to feel a huge void inside of us. Why? Because we are not living our lives through ourselves. We are living through social media, scrolling, dowloading apps, reading headlines, hearing scandals. We are conscious of almost everything that is going on in the world.

What is going on with you?

We have adapted to media and made it part of our routine. The same way we brush our teeth every morning, we scroll for a few minutes before getting out of bed. In the moment a conversation becomes silent, we look into out cellphones for company; even though there is someone right next to us.

Not only that, but we have taken the habit of disconnecting from our realities by numbing our brain with so much media junk. We spend so much time on Netflix, scrolling down Instagram and Facebook, watching silly videos, retweeting silly posts, etc… Is this really our hobbie or is it just that we don’t want to live our reality? Or maybe it is just a matter of a habit, something we do because everyone else does so.

Truth be told our reality will never change if we don’t face it. You want to have a life you like one you saw while scrolling down Instagram. Get out there! Go create your own!

This very connection is part of what keeps us disconnected. From what? FROM YOU. The more time you invest looking into others’ lives, the more time you take away from yourself.

Connecting is not only about letting the media go and becoming aware of yourself. It is also about becoming aware of your present time. The humans passing you by, the birds flying above you, the flowers ahead of you, the sun shinning on you, the rain refreshing you. Enjoy every single one of them, smile at them, smell them, thank them, greet them, connect with them.

The first step to reconnecting is awareness. Let’s become aware of how connected we truly are. The next step is simply enjoying your life. And no, your phone is not your life. Your life is happening, right now as you scroll down this post. Go live it!